Wrestling With Self Love

As someone who internalized at a young age that she was a sinner before she was anything else, I struggle when it comes to discerning my needs or trusting my instincts. Though I admittedly do it more often than not, I don’t think it’s right to put myself first.

Sinful from birth means selfish by nature. It means naturally thinking that the world should revolve around me. What I ought to do is forget my needs and extend myself in the service of others, not spiral inward and into my own self-indulgence.

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Dear Minority

The moment I walk into a room, eyes are fixed on me, prices in shops are raised, and the bottles of water are dusted off. Before I can open my mouth in my broken, native tongue, who I am has already been established; my salary has been assigned, my religion guessed, and, in some cases, the food I eat and how I eat it. All of these things have been decided based the color of my hair and skin.

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An Adulterous Heart

God made a man. Then I made that man into an idol.I didn’t melt down gold and bow before a gleaming calf. There were no cultish practices or pagan sacrifices. The truth is that idolatry looks nothing like what I thought.

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Dear Emotionally Abused

Sept. 10, 2017: “It takes courage to say I’m not okay. It takes strength to say I’m weak. It takes self-discipline to say I’m going to keep moving forward through the pain. It takes faith to remember that seasons of sadness don’t last forever and all of this will be redeemed.”

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Follow Me

My day's just starting. I come up and over the steep loosely packed, dirt hill that I've mastered not slipping and falling down. Horns are blaring, dust is swarming, the odor of gas fumes mixes with the aroma of freshly sliced fruit. Donning my face mask and buddying up with a uniform-clad girl on her way to school, I make my move to cross.

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On Being #Christlike

When I first moved to Southern Oregon, a valley lush with natural beauty, adventure opportunities, and churches, I often spent the nights driving around to become familiar with my territory. On one drive, I passed a coffee shop near my apartment. I read its name, got a look at the sign and decor and instantly said (out loud, because apparently, I do that), “This is where the hipster Christians take their photos for Instagram!”

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Loneliness in Marriage

When I was younger, I used to spend car rides daydreaming. I’d stare out the window imagining how I might meet that special someone, how we’d fall in love, and what kind of life we’d have together. Like most people, I craved the companionship of someone who knew me deeply, flaws and all, and yet loved me all the same. I had amazing family and friends, but …

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A Letter From Transition

I know you thought you were MEANT for that job, and you were, but only for a certain amount of time.The position was clearly made for you. It’s what you had gotten your degree in AND what you fully enjoyed spending your time on. The job was perfect. 

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